INTERVIEWER: What else do you need
to keep things going?
SAM: You need lots of patience, understanding, loving and caring.
When I first retired I resented the fact that I needed to pay for
an extra hour in parking fees to allow for all the chats Gladys
had with the friends she unexpectedly met while we were out shopping.
It used to annoy me so much because it seemed a waste of time and
money. Gradually I've begun to relax and quite enjoy our outings
GLADYS: I'm always in the driving seat now because Sam's eyesight
is not good but he still thinks he's the instructor. I just ignore
him. (They both laugh.)
Can it last?
Having read the interview with Gladys and Sam, plan in pairs what
questions you could ask one or two couples like this to find out
how their marriages have lasted. As you see from this interview,
just one or two questions were enough to get them talking but the
interviewer had some others up her sleeve such as:
• Have you had any bad times? What helped you get through
• Does your love for each other give you love to share with
• Do you like each other as well as loving each other?
You will think of other questions.
When you have the result of your interviews
• look at the relationship tree and decide how you
would now label the roots and fruits; you may want to change some
and add new ones.
• pool what you have discovered from your interviews
with the whole class, create a class visual aid which will help
you to remember what you have learnt about what is needed to create
a strong lasting relationship.